Sunday, June 15, 2014
Catholic Religion and Sex
Q. Hello psychicfocus :) I would like to know your thoughts about the Catholic church's stance on pre-marital sex. Why is it considered a sin, as if it's such a condemnable act? I am living in so much guilt and to be honest it drives me nuts how a natural human occurrence that is sex can be considered a sin, especially when you are staying chaste to only one partner. What is your view on this?
A. Before I get started, I am clearing myself so I can open up to the point of view (from the church). I don't want to give my opinion, but rather why the church has these feelings... What is the story behind the idea?
The first image I get is a man standing in the middle of the circle. He is surrounded by a woman and several children. The woman and children are circling him as if it was a dance, and the man reaches his hand out to bring the woman next to him while the children continue to circle about both of them. Then everything sort of "freezes" and an imaginary line is drawn from each child back to the mom and dad, as if without question these children were all the offspring of these two people.
Then I get that when the Catholic religion came about, in order for the religion to grow the members needed to continue to have children to carry on their tradition and faith. The bigger the family, the bigger the following (why birth control is so frowned upon.) They (the religion) want you to have as many children as possible to keep the Catholic religion going..
Rules regarding sex were created to promote family unity. They want you to wait until marriage and be with only one person to ensure you know who the father of the child is and keep the family unit strong. Back before DNA testings, the mom is known because the child comes from the woman, but the dad really has to go on what the woman tells him, and what he feels to be true (seems harsh, but is true). If you wait until marriage you create a bond (like a contract) that you will be with this one person only and this contract is sealed when the marriage is consummated. It was a much different time then, and those customs and beliefs have carried forward.
Waiting until after marriage also helped to strengthen the family bond. Men felt they had women that were only with them. They fathered children and the paternity was known. Most men naturally feel compelled to care for their children / family. And strong families with many children are what the Catholic religion needed to survive and strived to support.
Thank you. That is all I have for this reading. Narrated reading on YouTube.